Pain Clinic Referral?

I am trying to put off having my scoliosis curvature of a 57 degrees corrected. It never bothered me until I was in two car wrecks last year (both were not my fault...I know Im lucky). As a result of the wrecks I have herniated disc up and down my spine that are putting lots of pressure on my spinal cord making me have migraines lots of discomfort extreme pain to the point to where It hurts to breathe sometimes. I want to research doctors and do my homework on this spinal fusing before I just up and do the surgery which I think is reasonable and respectable but I guess not enough for the greedy doctor I went to. I know Im only 24 but I need some type of pain management or something to alleviate this pain in the meantime (ive tried pilates swimming physical therapy and they are still on going efforts of mine I just don't think people understand how painful it is to do this stuff. I even had another doctor tell me with my huge hump that scoliosis doesn't hurt and to go home and lay down! What should I do? How could someone want to operate to alleviate pain and pressure but then turn around and tell you that your not in pain? If Im not then why would you do surgery? Im young not stupid...thanks for listening and I welcome any and all responses.